Pride Month

  A note for Pride month:It’s 2021 and people still ask me if I perform “gay weddings.” And I still answer them the same way I have since 1987: I perform weddings. I formalize the commitment of people who love each other and want to spend their lives together. That’s it. It is not my

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We Are Who Believe We Are

Say it with me: This is not who we are. We are better than this. Say it again. We should all say it. OK, first of all, the disclaimer. Of course we are not better than this. Of course this is who we are. The list seems endless: slavery, Jim Crow, government-supported systemic racism –

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Struggling? Overwhelmed?

Are you struggling? Overwhelmed? You’re not alone. It’s been a weird, demanding, and terribly sad six months. Some of us feel completely helpless, others full of rage, still others too depressed to keep caring. Actually, a lot of us feel all of those emotions, serially or even all at once. It is ok to feel

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Elul

It’s the Jewish month of Elul, the only Jewish month with no holidays after the first day. The only month you’re not scurrying around cooking for the holiday, cleaning for the holiday, inviting friends and family, making sure you have whatever holiday supplies you need for your household’s traditions. The only month you have time

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No Experience is Wasted

We keep saying, “this is a weird time.” We keep saying, ‘this is different from anything we’ve ever experienced before.” We keep saying, “I’m not sure I know how to cope with this.” All those statements are true. And also not. Lessons from our past inform this new situation. Don’t touch your face. A guy

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