CONTACT JUDITH

EMAIL: Rabbi@EastBaySecularJews.com
PHONE: 925-485-1049

FAQs

Sure! My only caveat is that nobody at the wedding can say anything that both of you can’t believe. That usually means no “Jesus” or “Savior.”
I am happy to co-officiate under certain conditions. The other officiant needs to be willing to say ONLY what you both believe and have approved before-hand. No extemporaneous homilies or interjections. To be clear, I also only say the words you have approved before the ceremony. The ceremony also has to have equal representation of both traditions.
That’s what I do! I don’t say what I don’t believe, and I don’t believe in any gods. Your wedding can have many Jewish symbols and traditions with absolutely no religious content at all. You can have a chuppah, share wine, sign a ketubah and break a glass all without any mention of a deity.
Not at all. I perform humanistic (non-religious) ceremonies for all, and am happy to include ethnic traditions. .
If I don’t have to travel over about half an hour, my fee is usually $650. Distance and co-officiation can add up to $300 to that fee.
A wedding is not a performance.  You don’t need a rehearsal. That said, there are some couples - and their mothers - who can't feel comfortable without a run-through.  In that case, I'll try to attend.
None at all. The Secular Humanistic Jewish movement is egalitarian; we provide the same ceremony for boys and girls. It doesn’t matter to us if you have decided to circumsize or to leave your son intact.
You can do it whenever you are ready. If it is important to you or to your family to have a ceremony on the eighth day, that’s fine, but if you want to wait, that’s fine, too.
No. A baptism is a Christian religious ceremony. I can perform a separate ceremony the same day, but not in the church.
I don’t charge for baby-naming ceremonies but I do ask that you make a donation to my community, Tri-Valley Cultural Jews.
Sure. I am very willing to talk with a person who is dying or with the person’s family about the sort of funeral they all might feel comfortable with.
I can usually be available the day after you call me.
I don’t lead or say prayers, but I have many beautiful readings and poems that may be appropriate for you. If someone at the funeral needs to have kaddish said, that person can lead it, or you can ask someone else to lead.
Yes. I will conduct a ceremony wherever works for your needs. If the funeral is not at graveside, I can conduct a brief ceremony also at graveside.
I don’t charge for funerals but I do ask that you make a donation to my community, Tri-Valley Cultural Jews.